I don't experience any sexual or romantic attraction to other people, so I guess this answer will be slightly less about "attractive" in the traditional sense, but to be honest, I think most people who DO experience those things would mostly include traits that don't depend on the physical or sensual anyway.
Things I find attractive:
- Creativity
- Dedication
- Honesty that isn't an excuse to be a jerk
- Good listening skills
- Good communication skills
- Non-judgmental attitudes
- Appreciation of children
- Acknowledgment that "maturity" is not the same thing as "leaving behind everything you cared about as a child"
- Authenticity that isn't trying to get you to look at how authentic it is
- Open-mindedness and acceptance (not "tolerance" in the usual sense)
- Selflessness that doesn't extend into self-hatred
- Ability to sing or play an instrument
- Caring about political, social, and environmental issues that I do
- Politeness (especially toward restaurant and retail workers; you can always tell if someone's kind if they don't treat people hired to help them like second-class citizens)
- Willingness to disclose true feelings without sulkily expecting others to root them out
- Independence/lack of neediness
- Willingness to be supportive
- Silliness
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