Saturday, January 16, 2021

Personal Digest Saturday: January 9 – January 15

Life news this week:

  • Saturday I slept super late and it was nice. Unfortunately I felt really good for a while and then felt crappy so I had to take headache medicine. Did Polos with my sister, talked to Meggie on the phone, and got too tired to blog. I read a bunch of news and did some transcript work on Daria's video. Wrote some stuff on Tumblr too. I was distracted all day.

  • Sunday I did more sister Polos, recorded a karaoke song, and did my laundry and trash. Only got a little more of the transcript done. Taking forever. I modeled my new sweater! And wrote about some more ace stuff on Tumblr. Ate some pasta. I love mushrooms. Still doing too much reading the news.

  • Monday we found out we got on the shortlist for a project and the time until the interview is super short! We had to jump in to start preparing immediately, and I'm on the interview team again. I pulled together the last of the preparations I needed to send for a county proposal and left it in my boss's hands. Did some data stuff and helped out a new employee. After work I hung out on Discord with my friends but Meghan was busy with her mother-in-law so we didn't play games. Then my mom called and I talked to her and found out after that Meggie did make it in after all and I missed her. Aw!

  • Tuesday I got to sleep a little later. Worked on resumes for coworkers and ate oatmeal. Made more sister Polos. I ate some zucchini and also made some cranberry muffins. They aren't that good because the cranberries are so tart. But they're okay. Argued with a dork on a friend's Facebook page. My internet went out for a short while. I tried to record a song while I waited for it to come back but my computer wasn't behaving to record ukulele. Weird.

  • Wednesday I had another early meeting, and my work computer was offline but I could still attend the meeting while IT was fixing it. Very busy day--shortlist stuff, stuff for the City of Orlando, data entry, and a letter to be sent in (one of the long kind that takes forever to proofread). I also tested out a store-bought Steven Universe costume. Haha! After work Jeaux took me shopping and we made a vegetarian sausage pasta bake! Also watched Colbert and ranted about politics. We also took a nice cold walk. I ate too much pasta. Whoops.

  • Thursday I got a late start because my first appointment at work wasn't 'til 11. Did a bunch of resume stuff and uneventful meeting stuff. After work I did some comic stuff and went on walks. Talked to Victor for over three hours until I wanted to go snuggle in my bed with hot chocolate.

  • Friday I got up early for interview practice! Went fine. Very busy day again with reports, timesheets, and our proposal package. After work I did comics, talked to Jeaux briefly, and ate too much candy.
Interviews, Articles, Mentions:

New reviews of my book:

Food Plan Update:

  • No significant changes this week--have continued to stay under my weight goal (despite one very heavy eating day where I had multiple helpings of a delicious pasta bake, plus candy during the week!).
  • Still having days where I'm not prioritizing walking and haven't made my step goal. I need to really push myself to take more frequent breaks for walks.
  • I would like to focus more on getting more balanced nutrition--I am lacking in Vitamins A and C pretty often, and need to do better with calcium. Going to try smoothies.

Reading progress:

  • Finished Reading: Nothing this week.
    New singing performances:

    This week's karaoke song is "The Show Must Go On" by Queen.

    Stuff Drawn:

    Webcomic Negative One Issue 0818: "Your Thing." 

    New videos: 

    Daria's interview video is ready! Check out Ace Interviews #8.

    New photos:

    Cozy sweater modeled after Steven

    Very silly official SU costume

    Peek-a-boo! It comes with a gem

    Our Pasta Bake with vegetarian sausage

    Social Media Counts:

    YouTube subscribers: 5,294 for swankivy (lost 2), 667 for JulieSondra (lost 1), 17 for v & V Vids (no change), 110 for Not-So-Giant Women (no change). Twitter followers: 935 for swankivy (lost 2), 1,355 for JulieSondra (lost 2). Facebook: 300 friends for swankivy (no change), 626 likes for JulieSondra (no change), 74 likes for Negative One (1 new), 225 likes for So You Write (no change), 86 likes for Not-So-Giant-Women (1 new). Tumblr followers: 2,478 (5 new). Instagram followers: 234 (lost 1).

    Sunday, January 10, 2021

    Personal Digest Saturday: January 2 – January 8

    Life news this week:

    • Saturday Mom had slept over so we got up and she made me coffee! We had our cups together and she hung out a while. I sent her home with some cheese biscuits. Got some photos up and had a lot to do for my blog, so I got to it. Also took a couple walks. I also wrote a ramble for Tumblr about wanting to try to be more present on the blog I haven't been using for a while. It's important to me. And I fell asleep on the floor just like I said I wouldn't anymore this year, haha.

    • Sunday I had left my phone on the floor next to me with an alarm but the battery ran out COMPLETELY so that's why I didn't wake up. I let it charge and also grabbed another hour of sleep during that. Had some coffee while on the phone with Dad. I ate a lot of cookies, although I had a healthy broccoli dinner. Also drank a bunch of wine while reading the terrible transcript of Trump's call to Georgia. It really is what the media says it is, so I'm glad I had wine to get through it. Talked to Meg later. Did some laundry, trash, and karaoke--usual Sunday stuff. I only got a little bit of transcripting done, and I wrote a piece about cartoons.

    • Monday I was kinda worried about work stuff because I was going to have to prepare for interview practice and I wasn't really all the way ready. But the meeting moved to later anyway so I had time. It turned out I was plenty prepared and we had a good rehearsal. I worked on the packet we needed to turn in the next day. Also I got a feature on Amino for the piece about leadership I wrote. Then after work my friends and I played games, and after I sent Polo videos to my sister.

    • Tuesday I got up early to do interview practice again. And we turned in our package. Practice was again successful. After work I washed dishes, took a walk, and found like six golf balls. I spent a bunch of energy looking at the Georgia runoff results, and I reviewed a new trade paperback for Steven Universe. It's the last volume because they aren't making them anymore! :(

    • Wednesday we had one more early rehearsal and then we had our real team interview. Everything seemed fine and we were prepared for everything. I wanted to kinda relax after that but I had too much work to do so I worked on proposals. Then I made pizza dough so it'd have time to rise while Jeaux and I shopped. While I was outside talking to my lawn guy (and paying him) my mom called and said she'd had weird test results and was advised to go to the hospital, so she went and then didn't update me at all on what was going on so I was kinda worried. Jeaux and I made calzones from the pizza dough and they were delicious. And of course, while all this was going on . . . violent insurrectionists were breaking into the Capitol of the United States and having violent conflicts with police. Welp. What a night.

    • Thursday was Brendon's viewing. I obviously was not there but I tried to support Meg by being there for her and also I sent her family some cookies. Did more work on a city proposal, took a break to talk to my sis on the phone, and told her what I knew about Mom's situation. (Still nothing.) I finished my work on the proposal and shared it with the team. Then after work I talked to Victor and ended up kinda giving up when he fell asleep. He tried to call back but I just figured if he's that tired every week he should just sleep if he's dozing off. Ended up chatting with Meg about the viewing and then later Jeaux talked to me about politics. We finally found out Mom didn't get admitted to the hospital--she just got another test and some magnesium and potassium (which were really super low at her last checkup and that can be bad news). She needs to eat more.

    • Friday I did some data entry and some edit work on the proposal after receiving feedback, and I also got to do some formatting on the next letter we're sending out. After work I worked on my comic and got very cold. I took a hot shower and was very happy being all squeaky clean and warm. I fell asleep on the floor for a little while but got up and went to bed like I'm supposed to. Today was Brendon's funeral. Again I didn't go obviously but sent munchies for the fam.
    New reviews of my book:

    Food Plan Update:

    • Not a whole lot to report. I've been eating breakfast and lunch really late and snacking at night when I get a weird hunger whammy. I'm sure it's from stress. But it doesn't seem to be disrupting the overall diet situation or maintenance mode. I had a new low weight this week (108 lbs) but it's just kinda bobbing up and down just under 110 (which was my goal).
    • I'm a little concerned that I seem to be having trouble meeting my step goal because I've been so busy at work and reluctant to take breaks because I'm cold. I'm going to try to do better at this.
    • I won't post charts anymore because I got to my goal and stabilized, but if I keep having trouble with the step goals I'll maybe start posting those counts.

    Reading progress:

    • Finished Reading: Cherished Memories by Taylor Robin and S.M. Mara. Five-star review.
      New singing performances:

      This week's karaoke song is "Someone You Loved" by Lewis Capaldi.

      Stuff Drawn:

      Webcomic Negative One Issue 0817: "One of the Bros." 

      New videos: 

      Daria's interview video is processed and approved, but I haven't finished the transcript so it'll be a bit longer before I can publish.

      New photos:

      A little wine with that transcript

      All the ongoing trades - it's over now!

      New "Let Us Adore You" shirt

      Making calzones

      Calzone baked

      Ready to eat!

      Social Media Counts:

      YouTube subscribers: 5,296 for swankivy (2 new), 668 for JulieSondra (no change), 17 for v & V Vids (no change), 110 for Not-So-Giant Women (no change). Twitter followers: 937 for swankivy (lost 1), 1,357 for JulieSondra (no change). Facebook: 300 friends for swankivy (no change), 626 likes for JulieSondra (lost 3), 73 likes for Negative One (no change), 225 likes for So You Write (no change), 85 likes for Not-So-Giant-Women (no change). Tumblr followers: 2,473 (lost 3). Instagram followers: 235 (no change).

      Saturday, January 2, 2021

      Personal Digest Saturday: December 26 – January 1

      Life news this week:

      • Saturday was a sort of fuzzy blank day. Just trying to process everything and support Meggie because of Brendon passing away on Christmas. I did some chatting with my sister, talked to Meg on the phone, and posted some old photos of Brendon on social media. I ate a lot of leftovers and wasn't really paying attention to my choices. Drank a bunch of wine. Texted with friends and family.

      • Sunday there was also not much difference from the day before. I didn't really clean up and I ate a lot of crap. I did do a little transcript typing, did my chores around the house, and did karaoke. Talked on the phone to Kathy and Fred a long time. And talked to Meg again. Did some digital cleanup.

      • Monday I didn't have any meetings but it was a little busy with utility letters going out and letter prep. Did some more stress eating (and drinking). Meg still wanted to play games so we met (a little early) online so she could have an opportunity to laugh. We had some good times and I'm really glad she reaches out to talk to us when she needs us. Patricia messaged later to tell me she had some time to talk, and we ended up talking for like five hours or something. Wow! I got kinda drunk from the wine.

      • Tuesday I received my third pink varsity jacket so now I have the complete collection of three! I started getting the fundraiser payments hitting my bank so I sent them to Meg as they came. Did a letter at work, found out I got a holiday bonus, and worked on a proposal. After work I worked on a transcript and drank a bunch of wine. Made zucchini with linguine.

      • Wednesday I worked on another County proposal and the package for our upcoming interview. We hired a new guy. Ate more zucchini. Jeaux came over and we shopped, and he wanted mashed potatoes so I taught him how to make them. He was very pleased with himself. Then we watched fun videos and picked up watching Season 3 of Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts. Also I texted with Meghan and Steve.

      • Thursday was New Year's Eve but I had no plans except for drinking Sangria by myself. (That is what I did.) I did have to work though, and spent most of the day engaged with making reports and doing timesheets. My computer went down for a short time and my boss had to physically go to the office to fix it for me so I worked late to make up the time. After work I drew a So You Write comic and posted it, and was prepared to draw while talking to Victor but he didn't call. I made some Polos for my sister and I went outside when I heard fireworks. 2021!

      • Friday I had the day off so I spent it working on my comic, cleaning up the house a little, and posting my 2020 year-end survey. (Read it if you haven't!) Then I invited my mom over for the usual tradition of Breakfast for Dinner (except usually my sister and family is visiting, so this was pretty tiny, but still nice to do it). She showed up right on time! So I teased her that she's been on time for 100% of this year. We had eggs with mushrooms, soy bacon, and cheesy biscuits. She fell asleep after all that food so I let her stay the night on the couch.
      New reviews of my book:

      Interviews, Articles, Mentions:

      • This Tumblr thread has some discussion suggesting my book is good for aces to read but expresses reservations thinking the book doesn't support the inherent queerness of asexual people enough.
      Food Plan Update:

      • It's been a rough week, diet wise, so I'm not sure why my scale numbers have not reflected what I expected. I got a new low weight this week--108.5 pounds. I have been below my goal weight for most of the week despite eating a lot of junk and drinking a ton of wine. I don't plan to continue this behavior--I can certainly write it off to the stress this week of losing Brendon and worrying about my friends--but I think this may be the last week I'll post my charts since I seem to be settling into a maintenance mode and don't need such strict monitoring anymore.

      • I also had multiple days this week where I did not try to meet my 10,000 steps goal. I don't believe it will be tough to regain this but again the circumstances of what is happening in my personal life do suggest if I need more rest than usual it's okay.

      • Here are this week's charts.

      Reading progress:

        New singing performances:

        This week's karaoke song is "Shiny Happy People" by R.E.M.

        Stuff Drawn:

        Webcomic So You Write Issue 115: "Not Healthy." 

        Webcomic Negative One Issue 0816: "Faking It." 

        New videos: 

        Daria's interview video is processed and approved, but I haven't finished the transcript so it'll be a bit longer before I can publish.

        New photos:

        My Daylight Curfew Jackets!

        Jacket Mark I Closed
        Jacket Mark I Open

        Jacket Mark II Closed
        Jacket Mark II Open
        Jacket Mark III Closed
        Jacket Mark III Open
        Ukulele with new jacket on

        Bonus: my first selfie of the year.

        Singing a song!

        Social Media Counts:

        YouTube subscribers: 5,294 for swankivy (6 new), 668 for JulieSondra (no change), 17 for v & V Vids (no change), 110 for Not-So-Giant Women (no change). Twitter followers: 938 for swankivy (lost 1), 1,357 for JulieSondra (lost 1). Facebook: 300 friends for swankivy (1 new--added a friend's alt), 629 likes for JulieSondra (no change), 73 likes for Negative One (no change), 224 likes for So You Write (no change), 85 likes for Not-So-Giant-Women (no change). Tumblr followers: 2,476 (no change). Instagram followers: 235 (no change).

        Friday, January 1, 2021

        Year-End Survey 2020

         Here's my year-end survey for 2020!

        1. What did you do in 2020 that you'd never done before?
        • Ran a funeral fundraiser.
        • Filed my taxes through a professional tax preparer.
        • Took ownership of some place settings of my mother's china.
        • Got invited to play-test a card game for Steven Universe.
        • Went on an actual specific diet.
        • Joined a postcard-writing campaign for a political candidate.
        • Donated to a political candidate.
        • Had a work-from-home job.
        • Spent Halloween alone (dressed up, though!).
        • Began participating in a group online game night.
        • Made a four-tier cake and worked with fondant.

        2. Did you keep your new year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

        Last year, these were my resolutions, and whether I kept them:
        • Finish a book and start editing it. [Did NOT.]
        • Complete my photos page on the new domain. [Did NOT.]
        • Make healthier choices with my eating, including taking vitamins and not eating just because I'm bored, therefore being able to fit into some of the clothes I'm a little too chunky for right now. [ACHIEVED!]
        • Get some kind of consistency to responding to e-mail and comments. [Did NOT.]
        • Use Lyft to go to work less often--try to ride the bus more. [ACHIEVED, but it was only because of plague.]
        • Get some kind of pattern to do better on social media besides Facebook. I want to be more active on Twitter and Instagram. [Did NOT.]
        • Submit more short stories. Can't really control if I get picked, but I hope to! [ACHIEVED!]
        • Finish all the Steven Universe recipe replicas on my list! [ACHIEVED!]
        • Complete my Steven Universe variant comic books collection! [Did NOT. Still missing ONE!]
        • Drink more water, dang it. [Only marginally.]

        My resolutions this year:
        • E-mail. Get caught up and STAY CAUGHT UP. I have always struggled with this.
        • Learn to put myself to bed. No more falling asleep on the floor or with my contacts in. Get a bedtime routine and go to BED!
        • Complete my photos page on the new domain.
        • Maintain my healthy choices and my weight that I finally managed to hit this year.
        • Make time for writing projects. Finish at least one book in progress.
        • Continue to submit short stories.
        • Complete my Steven Universe variant comic books collection!
        • Actually follow through on drinking more water.
        • Less scrolling on Tumblr and Facebook; more working on projects. Set a timer and stick to it.
        • Help my mom with some important stuff and touch base with her more often.
        • Draw more fun projects.
        • Get a literary agent for my fiction projects.
        • Become more adventurous with my home cooking.
        • Improve on ukulele.

        3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

        Ammy gave birth to little Zoë.

        4. Did anyone close to you die?

        Brendon. He just died on Christmas.

        I was so incredibly fortunate not to lose anyone else close to me this year during the pandemic.

        5. What countries did you visit?

        I did not leave the US. For much of the year, I was not allowed to.

        6. What would you like to have in 2020 that you lacked in 2019?
        • The Covid vaccine.
        • As always, a book deal.
        • A copy of the SU comic I'm missing!
        • Friends and family in my house.
        • Stability for friends and family whose lives are upended or uncertain.
        • Conventions.
        • A trip to New York City.

        7. What dates from 2020 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
        • January 17–19: Meghan visited for our birthdays.

        • March 16: Began working from home because of Covid-19.
        • March 27: My favorite show Steven Universe ended its run.
        • May 20: Celebrated 15 years of running my webcomic Negative One.
        • July 6: Joined an app-based diet program to try to lose some weight.
        • July 28: Started playing weekly online games with Meghan and some friends.
        • October 27: Did a three-hour livestream on YouTube for Ace Week.
        • October 31: Gave out candy alone from my garage for Halloween because of plague.

        8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
        • I sold a short story.
        • I lost 18 pounds and regularly walk 10,000 steps a day. (I never intended to show the comparison pics they have me take but I was surprised to see you can see the difference so I guess here. I'm so short that that's a pretty big change.)
        July to December
        • I navigated the difficulties of working from home.
        • I stayed isolated since March except for weekly trips to the grocery store with Jeaux (who is also working from home and isolated) and occasionally seeing my equally isolated mother.
        • Began my Ace Interviews series and it is very well received.
        • Despite many challenges, I still managed to post a new video (just about) every month, keep up with a weekly and a monthly webcomic, write up and review all the new Steven Universe comics, books, and podcasts, and maintain an active social and online life.
        • Began the search for a literary agent to represent a science fiction book. (My existing literary agent reps my nonfiction.)
        • Got featured posts 11 times on Steven Universe Amino.
        • Won Best of Crafts on Steven Universe Amino.

        9. What was your biggest failure?
        • Not finishing writing any books.
        • Falling off creating content for things that are important to me.
        • Spending too much time distracted.
        • Really doing a terrible job on my online communication. I feel like I disappointed a lot of people.
        • Routinely staying up too late.
        • Probably not doing enough to be there for people who could use check-ins from me.

        10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

        I had food poisoning like three times. It was weird.

        11. What was the best thing you bought?

        Books, face masks, delicious coffee, presents for others, and cartoon collectibles. 

        12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
        • Protesters and civil rights activists who made a statement so loudly, so clearly.
        • Parents who had to suddenly shift their entire world around when Covid hit and they had to become teachers.
        • My incredible, wonderful Meggie. I can't even express in words how shattering this year has been for her and I'm so grateful and awed that she is part of my world, somehow still standing.
        • Everyone who gave up personally meaningful gatherings, trips, and events to help keep others safe.
        • The vaccine task forces.
        • The nurses and medical practitioners of this world, and every other essential worker.
        • My boss who made his company safe to work for during a pandemic and accommodated my needs.
        • Three trans friends who began transition/came out this year.
        • My queer friends in general.
        • Poll workers, political activists, and fact-checkers who helped make the election more accessible, more informed, and fairer.
        • My friends who are parents, managing that delicate balance of dedicating themselves to their kids while engaging in some self care.
        • My friend Ronni who got a paperback deal.
        • My nephew Ash who made it through a strange time of distance learning and has continued to make cooler and cooler art.

        13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
        • As usual, Donald Trump and his supporters.
        • People who spread lies and conspiracy theories (many of which have their roots in antisemitism).
        • Everyone who contributed to the coronavirus outbreak by refusing to listen to science and boycotting masks because inconveniencing themselves to literally save someone's life was too much of an imposition on their personal freedom.
        • People who are intentionally attending spreader events when they do not need to.
        • People who use tragedy to capitalize. 
        • Every single fatphobe.
        • People who blamed black people for their own oppression.
        • People who used the coronavirus to be anti-Asian bigots.
        • People who don't think it's a crisis that our country imprisoned people for seeking refuge here. And the people who made it possible to do that to them as if they're criminals for trying to survive. (But these are the same people who would handcuff someone for stealing baby formula from Walmart, so. How desperate do you think someone is if they're stealing food for their baby?)
        • People who refused to use their power and money to improve the lives of desperate people.
        • Racists, homophobes, and transphobes who have felt even more emboldened this year to be huge disgusting bigots.
        • People who expect me and others to clean up the messes they made.
        • People who think it's edgy to repeatedly engage in behaviors they have been asked to stop for the purpose of upsetting others and then minimizing their pain.
        • People who send me snotty, rude, offensive, and creepy messages online.
        14. Where did most of your money go?

        Besides rent, it was definitely Steven Universe merchandise and lending other people money/contributing to craptons of fundraisers.

        15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

        The Steven Universe finale and final books, every step forward in queer representation and equality and happiness, oatmeal, talking nerdy stuff with friends, bringing my friend Steve into my circle of oldest friends to play games, podcasts with Daria, cosplaying, my nephew, a New York trip I planned but canceled, previewing and play-testing the SU card game, Angela Chen's book coming out (with my blurb!), finishing my SU recipes, my Pearl costume.

        16. What song will always remind you of 2020?

        Usually I'll pick some pop song I discovered during the year, but this year I will nominate "Ghen Cô Vy"--Vietnam's song teaching people how to wash their hands in the coronavirus pandemic. I unironically like it.

        17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

        i. happier or sadder?


        ii. thinner or fatter?


        iii. richer or poorer?


        18. What do you wish you'd done more of?

        Writing fiction, responding to mail, and working on my damn website.

        19. What do you wish you'd done less of?

        Arguing with people who aren't listening, worrying about politics.

        20. How did you spend Christmas?

        Well, largely in a weird sad haze because I woke up to the news that Brendon died and still haven't processed it all the way. 

        But as far as Christmas CELEBRATION plans, I invited Mom, Victor, and Jeaux to my house for Christmas dinner. So many cookies!

        21. How will you be spending New Year's Eve?

        By myself drinking Sangria and drawing comics. 

        22. Did you fall in love in 2020?

        None of my relationships with other people could be described as "falling in love." I maintain that I have all the love I want in my life.

        23. How many one-night stands?

        I should probably just delete this question from the survey. But then I'd have to re-number and ew.

        24. What was your favorite TV program?

        No one who has spoken to me in the last five years doubts that my favorite TV program continues to be Steven Universe. I also got into Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts, Keep Your Hands Off Eizouken!, The Umbrella Academy, and the Animaniacs reboot though.

        25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?

        Nah, I hate all the same people.

        26. What was the best book you read this year?

        My five-star reads this year were Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen; Steven Universe: End of an Era by Chris McDonnell; The Art of Steven Universe the Movie; and Attachments by Rainbow Rowell.

        27. What was your greatest musical discovery?

        My talented friend Steve who has begun to share meditation compositions during the pandemic.

        28. What did you want and get?

        Followers, love, attention, lots of really cool merchandise, a complete collection of autographed trading cards, great coffee and scented stuff, a healthy year, a win for Democrats in the presidential election, incredible conversations, a resolution to some instability at work, a short story sale.

        29. What did you want and not get?

        Better time management, a trip to New York, the 2015 issue of the Greg Universe Special with cover by Fellipe Martins (the only one I'm missing DARN IT), visits with Meghan and Steve and my dad, holidays with family, friends to remain healthy (a bunch of my friends have caught and suffered from Covid), an agent for fiction (though I just started looking!), a Democratic presidential nominee more in line with my views (Biden was low on my list), justice and peace for oppressed people, basic relief for people in my life who can't make a living now.

        30. What was your favorite film of this year?

        I hardly saw any movies this year and a couple of the ones I did see I didn't like, so I guess (if it counts) I'll just pick the Hamilton broadcast?

        31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

        I turned 42. At work one co-worker got me tiny cupcakes and my boss bought me a cake! 

        After work I went out to Japanese food with Meghan, who came for our birthday, and we had Jeaux over so he could give us birthday gifts. We ate some of the cake my boss gave me. I got to celebrate my birthday before Covid was happening in this country since it was in January.

        32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

        If my country took Covid seriously and obviously if I didn't lose a dear friend to it. If we'd had a president and leadership that wasn't obsessed with image and willing to ignore science for his reputation and the economy. And as always, a book deal would have been cool.

        33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2020?

        Sweatpants and Steven Universe tee shirts. And when going out, stylish masks. Also being able to fit into some of my smaller clothes again, but that's not really a fashion concept.

        34. What kept you sane?

        Cartoons, long walks, Polos with my sister, Stephen Colbert, sympathetic friends, coffee, kind people, music, distractions, stress cleaning.

        35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

        Oh, you silly survey.

        36. What political issue stirred you the most?

        Black Lives Matter and the entire shitshow that was the Presidential election.

        37. Who did you miss?

        I already miss Brendon and he's gone a week. And beyond that, I miss literally everyone I haven't been able to see, especially Steve and Meghan because they've both been through some terrible stuff and I want to hug them.

        38. Who was the best new person you met?

        I haven't met anyone new this year "for real" but there's someone pretty cool I'm talking to on OKCupid (I haven't written about her here yet), and all of the people I interviewed for my Ace Interviews series were so cool!

        39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2020.

        We have to accept that we live in a world where some intensely selfish people will light the world on fire before they'll deign to grant you your fair share of it.

        40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year:

        "Things start and things end, and isn't it lovely in theory but...."