Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Wednesday Factoid: Compete or Collaborate?

Today's Wednesday Factoid is: Do You Perform Better When You’re Competing or When You’re Collaborating?

Crap, I don't really know!

The "nice" answer is that collaborating makes me more motivated to care about the work. I don't want to let other people down and I love to see people I helped actually get what they're reaching for. But honestly? I'm pretty friendly about competing, but do really like to compete!

I'm not a sore loser, and I'm definitely not an obnoxious winner. But I will absolutely admit that a little competition can go a long way for me. It's a weird internalized thing: If someone else can do something and I want to do that thing, I use their achievements as a marker to see if I can reach higher, and it becomes an internal thing very quickly. I want to know if I can reach or beat what someone else did. They don't even have to know. I know, and that satisfies me. 

I will also be more likely to get really into a game if there's a score. Something to beat or something to keep track of. Otherwise it feels aimless. So even if it's really arbitrary and there are no stakes at all, I like having a score and I like "winning" with a higher score. It still works when I'm trying to beat my own scores, though, so it's definitely about the experience, not about "beating" someone. Also, I'm very good-natured about losing to someone, and if I'm no good at something at all, I'll be open about admitting that.

Monday, October 16, 2017

Cruel by accident

I listened to a podcast recently where the guest was one of my favorite creators, Rebecca Sugar. She's an animator, comic artist, musician, and showrunner. She's also bisexual, and only finally got to come out and start talking about it at age twenty-eight. Rebecca is doing that on a recent episode of QUEERY.

QUEERY is a show hosted by Cameron Esposito which is about sexual diversity and identity. The show had Rebecca Sugar on as a guest to discuss her own identity and the queer-positive messages she incorporates into her art.

You can listen to the episode here.

I wanted to share a rambling description of what they talked about on the show because the importance of the identity aspects of Steven Universe kept coming up, and as a person from a marginalized and less visible identity, I relate to a LOT of what Rebecca Sugar said about community, coming out, and the importance of visibility. Especially the bit where the "diagnosis" of "it doesn't matter what your label is" ends up being "cruel by accident." This doesn't need to be talked about—that's the message. It's not relevant to the rest of us. It's not a conversation that needs to be had, or I don't understand your reason for needing to have it so I'd rather you shut up.

To be honest, I wish I could interview Rebecca about this (or really just have a conversation about it). We're both queer Jewish creative-workaholic female creators and I've been saying some of the same things she says in this interview for literally years, and it’s just so amazing to hear someone else saying them. 

I’d love to have a discussion of how both asexual and bisexual people get the “not queer enough” treatment sometimes and are accused of doing it for attention or co-opting resources meant for “real” queer people, and how very very very important it is to see ourselves in our media so we know we’re real and not alone. The stories we tell are how the world talks to itself, and if you’re not represented there, you feel like you’re not part of the world or its stories. We should all be able to be part of that. As a queer creator myself, I'm finding that I want and need to incorporate that underrepresented perspective into my writing, and the experience has so many nuances and unexpected aspects that I wish I had someone to talk to about. That and how not all important relationships are romantic; friendship is always sidelined and represented as  lesser, but I think friendships are properly represented in her work and I appreciate it so much.

I’ve also had the same experience Rebecca had with going to a college campus (where I was a speaker) and hanging out at the LGBT Center with a group of kids who have the kind of community I never had when I was that age, and I’d always thought I didn’t need it, but being there with people who all had this thing in common and knowing it’s a place you can be you, I think I had a weird mourning feeling tied up in gratefulness that this generation has more support than I did.

Some details of the interview:
Cameron introduces Rebecca's show, Steven Universe, to her audience, and says if you’re not watching it you should be. After some info on the tour she’s doing at the moment, she has Rebecca Sugar introduce herself.

Cameron compliments the show and discusses the music Rebecca writes and plays on ukulele. Rebecca discusses how she did comics and studied animation but music was really a hobby. She was surprised that she got to incorporate that into the show. She used to do busking in an eight-person band, playing the banjo ukulele, like in the subways and stuff. They discuss street performance and puppetry for a bit.

Rebecca had been on QUEERY before, and she says her first time she was very nervous talking about her personal identity. They had to cut a bit when she cried about it. She feels very positive about being out as bisexual, and loves being able to talk about it, but it can be intense.

She didn’t want to give the impression that she was ashamed or sad about it just because she cried—she loves being able to be open about it. For a long time Rebecca thought she wasn’t allowed to talk about it, and hadn’t even considered being out. I had the same feeling about it, and that was reinforced by people telling me “Why do you need to talk about this? This should be private.” And yet they did not understand how casually, how freely, how without fear heterosexuality was inserted into everything they did and said, from facing no qualms about saying who they thought was hot in a movie to casually talking about their partner without worrying it would make someone think differently about them or even be dangerous.

When Rebecca was a kid, other people’s responses were mostly like “you can be with whoever you want.” So she figured the floor was open. She hasn’t dated much and is shy, and now she’s with Ian (who’s a man), so since she wants to spend the rest of her life with him, she figured she would never really have the opportunity to “be out” because her relationship is with a man and people don’t really interpret that as queer. She said she thought she would only need to be out if she was with a woman.

Rebecca wants to reach people on this subject—and it’s new to her to be able to reach people on this subject!—so she’s very excited to be able to explore it also in her cartoon. She suggested that a hundred thousand children “knew she was gay” (though “gay” isn’t exactly it), but she hadn’t had that conversation with her family.

She wanted to base the stories on her own experiences, but at the same time she wasn’t sure anyone else would relate to it. She also discussed how if bi people talk about their identity, they want attention or want to be cool or sexy. She said that didn’t fit at all with the way she felt about being bi. She mostly felt worried that by being in a relationship she was just a liar all the time.

Cameron spoke up to say proof or external representations don’t dictate identity. Elaborating, she says that her being gay herself has nothing to do with her wife, Rhea, but at the same time it has plenty to do with her because Rhea is in her life.

Rebecca says she was stunned to acknowledge at age 28 that labels can matter—that she could still be with the person she wanted to be with AND be out—she didn’t have to be closeted. She said usually being bi is acknowledged in media as a person who is with many people, or as a phase you go through in college. She didn’t know you can be a “shy bisexual.”

And now she’s become free to explore it, and she’s so free to connect with these kids who relate to stuff in her cartoon who knew about it more than she did, all these queer kids who get it.

Cameron discussed issues in the queer community from there, discussing how people make choices about their identity and how they present to the world, and who they should be with. Being a lesbian, that doesn’t mean she has to be with a cis woman out of fear that someone will disqualify her from the lesbian community if her partner is trans. The boundaries are relaxing. Rebecca agrees and says things are shifting on the spectrum.
They agree also that “Oh who cares, I don’t care what your label is” is “cruel by accident.” Rebecca says that’s kind of what made her want to say she does care—through her platform and her cartoon, she wants to speak to kids that she personally does care and is interested.

It’s so crucial to see yourself in your media, especially as a kid. You can internalize that your absence from media means you’re not allowed to participate in an “appropriate” world. The idea that kids must be protected from knowing about these things is really damaging. If you REALLY want to protect kids, you’ll give them the tools to know themselves so they don’t implode or get into terrible situations later due to lack of support. 

I related to this a lot. When I did a video on asexual representation in comics and books and TV, a few people went after me like, “Why do you have to insert this into everything, why do you have to see it? And what about the gay kids who are afraid of being gay so they think they can just be asexual and not have to face it?” But never do you care about what happens to ace teens when they have nothing. We should NOT be told we can’t talk about who we are or have representation because someone, on the path to discovering themselves, might mistake themselves for one of us along the way.

Rebecca says she knows lack of representation meant she rushed into things with other people because she needed a partner to “explain things” to her. She learned quickly that people expected her to “find out” who she was by experimenting even though she didn’t really want to date a lot of people, and she eventually figured she’d learn to define herself based on who she ended up dating.

She was maybe as young as 11 when she discovered she was bi, and people would reply to her with “oh please.” At 14 she thought she must “want to be” bi because she didn’t date other women. And yet she didn’t get to be out until she was 28.

She felt she just couldn’t say she was bi. She didn’t want people to think she only wanted attention. What you learn when you hear that is that your partner matters and your feelings DON’T matter.

Cameron agreed that “you want attention” is common across the board with queer people. Like why would you need to talk about it? But Rebecca says everyone tells stories about their lives. People criticized Cameron’s work and said why do you need to talk about your experience, expecting not everything would come through her experience, when of course it would.

The commenters on Cameron’s column on AV Club got super cruel after a while, expecting her to make her column have more diverse perspectives even though it was only ever supposed to be her own, as if they were angry that a lesbian had a platform and the content on it made her identity integral. She stopped writing it because of how brutal the comments got.

Rebecca said she now wants to champion LGBTQIA stuff in G-rated entertainment, and now wants to get into talking about her own perspective and championing it at the beginning of children’s lives. When she first started doing this, her loved ones cautioned her to be careful since she might be endangering herself being out, especially since people are threatened by those trying to get the information to kids. It frustrates her that her loved ones were reacting with worry as their first response. 

That happened to me too. The first time I was invited to be on television, two people pounced on me with concerns about my safety, and they successfully scared me into backing out of the media engagement. I have since gotten this managed and safely appeared in visual media, though I also acknowledge the appropriateness of the concern because some of my treatment has been frightening and awful.
In discussing her orientation in her relationship, Cameron asked Rebecca if she’d had much discussion about it with her partner. She brought up a time when the show had recently been released and a couple of girls asked her at an event if she was gay, but her significant other was next to her and she felt she couldn’t say “yes,” she couldn’t say “no,” she just really had no answer because she didn’t know the answer herself.
She felt very strange and exposed being interpreted as queer, though she sometimes pointed at her relationship with a man, and she was afraid that confirming she’s bi would mean she’s admitting she’s attracted to women and that means she can’t be with a man. She wasn’t ready to face that but she could make art about it.

Cameron brought up the frustration of coming out all the time—how someone in a bagel store could observe she’s buying two bagels and remark “So, bringing one home for the boyfriend?” and the she feels obligated to either lie or come out to a stranger. That’s part of why she wanted to do standup comedy and create a space to talk about her experiences. She said she used her art to make herself safe. Rebecca said that makes sense.

I relate to this very hard. “Coming out” is not something you just do once, and though people have a common misconception that asexual people don’t need to do it, you would be surprised how often it’s relevant. Especially for a perpetually single woman of childbearing age, for whom everyone is always demanding a reason, as if being in a relationship is the default and you must have an excuse if you aren’t. That or they think they’re doing you a favor by giving you advice, assuring you you’ll find someone, or trying to set you up with their brother.

Rebecca brought up getting a letter from a queer group at a college, discussing the importance of community and how her show meant so much to the students there. On the surface she was thinking of it like she’s been doing a favor for people who need help but don’t have anything to do with her, because hey, who cares about labels, but at the same time she got really emotional while reading the letter, saying she didn’t have the opportunity to connect to community herself.

So she decided to go visit, and she came out to them at that group for the first time. She had the practice of saying it out loud, and later was able to come out at Comic Con.

Some of the people at the group were very understanding and thoughtful, which was a great experience for her. She got to discuss issues like being commonly misunderstood because she’s with a man. She was amazed that they were interested in her as a person, and she’d already internalized that people only cared about her work and what she does.
In the past she hasn’t taken good care of herself; she’s a workaholic and runs herself ragged—partly because she didn’t care about herself. The discussion of identity really helped her feel like she mattered, because before that she felt that no one would accept or care for her if she was honest about the feelings she had. If you don’t like your own love feelings, how can you like yourself?

She wondered how many people were in relationships that they accept that it defines who they are, and there’s a piece of their mind they never get to share.

Cameron discussed how having a partner isn’t the same thing as having an identity, though it’s sort of like a small business you cultivate together. There are a lot of lies we tell ourselves about how that relationship is supposed to feel and what aspects of it are normal. She brought up how people expect her to never want to meet her partner’s previous partners, to be jealous of them and angry they exist, while in actuality she was glad to be with someone who’d had other experiences before her and wasn’t “untouched.” Rebecca agreed that jealousy is romanticized, and Cameron said she’s loved people in a variety of ways.

Rebecca commented that partners shouldn’t be able to hold the keys to your identity. It can be dangerous, and you need to communicate. She mentioned loving the song “Darkness Among the Fireflies” by Mason Jennings—she’d never heard a song about a partner’s previous relationships. And then there’s a song by Emily King called “Distance” that’s about having space from your partner because you need to reboot, and then returning to them.

She loves these facets of love stories. She wants to tell those stories to kids, because she wanted to have them when she was young. All she had was love-at-first-sight stories that are always heteronormative and don’t make sense. They end when you get married, that’s it. Happily ever after. And then there are stories about how marriage is horrible! What does that tell kids.

Cameron points out, as someone who’s married, it’s kind of like having a job you love but causes you unending stress. Rebecca commented “the grass is always greener where you water it.” They agree that running a show with your significant other is the best and the worst. And how it’s not worth giving up the highs because you’ll have to deal with the lows.

They discuss how you can dump energy into shame, and suppression is one of the only non-productive uses of energy. Cameron compliments Rebecca on creating a reality where she could go forward into having what she wants creatively without sacrificing attention to her identity that she needed for her health, and Rebecca says the alternative was unsustainable. She’s still dealing with it and has doubts about whether she should speak about these things. Cameron says she thinks the voice of doubt will go away.

Rebecca says she loves that the show helped people connect with other queer people or helped them come out. She met a teen at a book signing who is in the teen youth queer community, and she thinks it’s so wonderful—she loves that they feel good and don’t have to deal with what she dealt with since they have support from an early age.

She says people get excited about representation and how it will do people good, and they’ll want to support the show because of what it does for representation, but for her it’s not a commodity. It’s community.

She wanted to change the world, with putting her message into homes and reaching kids, and she loves that it can bring people into community, that it’s the people who matter more than the art.

When Rebecca stopped being afraid and started looking up info about bisexuality, she found out about Brenda Howard, the “mother of pride.” She popularized the term “pride,” and she’s bi and Jewish. She wished she’d had an opportunity to connect with role models like Brenda. Rebecca is still amazed that she’s part of a community like this, but Brenda helped create that space.

The interview comes to an end here. Cameron bids her farewell saying Rebecca should be confident and that it’s the right choice to be open about who she is—she’s doing the right thing.

The end! I do wish I could chat with Rebecca. I’d love to have a talk like this and talk about queer experience, being a queer female Jewish creator, the importance of friendships, less scripted definitions of love, and the vital nature of children’s media. <3

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Personal Digest Saturday: October 7 – October 13 [GIF]

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Life news this week: 
  • Saturday my mom was gonna come over but she couldn't make it, and I spent the day getting a bunch of stuff out of the garage and getting it all organized. The GIANT SPIDER from the day before reappeared . . . in my shower, with me while I was showering. A chase ensued. I won. Also listened to a podcast and took pictures of all my Steven Universe tee shirts.

  • Sunday my mom was gonna come over but again couldn't make it. I spent the day organizing my desks, and did some music recordings. I also talked to Victor on the phone because someone threw a brick through his window and he was kinda shook up. I built most of a bookcase while talking to him.

  • Monday the bus schedules all changed to the new pattern. I had to walk almost half an hour to get to my new bus stop. But other than that, the ride is good. I got to work really early and did business development stuff, then came home and finished the bookcase. I also took really dorky pictures of me in a costume.

  • Tuesday I listened to an interview, did some work on a proposal, came home and did some digital art, and organized my Steven Universe toys. I took a (spiderless) shower.

  • Wednesday went as planned, hooray. I got a pat on the back for fixing a printer problem, went home and got some organizing done before Jeaux came over, and we ate at Hawkeyes Pizza and did a couple shopping errands. Jeaux also helped me get my new queen-size mattress onto the guest bed!

  • Thursday I did proposal work and went home to meet with Victor, who was staying over because his birthday was the next day. We had a great time--listened to comedy (which made me laugh so hard I almost died), ate homemade vegetarian shepherd's pie, and hung out. He put together my other bookcase while I made his birthday cake--yellow cake with lemon icing. He got to be the first sleeper in the guest bed!

  • Friday I brought leftover cake to work. And someone called one of my coworkers to say the website looks really cool and when did the boss update it? Guess what? I WAS THE ONE THAT REDESIGNED IT. I must rule or something. I did some editing and shopping and drew my comic really slowly but got it posted on time. Also started another digital doodle.

Reading progress:
    New singing performances:

    This week's song was "Experiment IV" by Kate Bush. (Kate Bush is a pretty odd singer and if you have not acquired the particular flavor she represents, you might not like this recording. I assure you it sounds a lot like the original.)

    New drawings: 

    Garnet. "Hey, cool it, your Ruby is showing!"
    Practicing digital art. I got a long way to go.
    A floppy Garnet head on which I practiced some shading stuff.

    Webcomic Negative One Issue 0648: "Hold Warmth."

    New videos:

    This week's unlisted ukulele video (yes, I'm back to making them!): "What's Up?" by 4 Non Blondes. The chords are super easy but I struggle with rhythm, so I figured it was a good one to try.

    New photos:

    an animated GIF of all my SU shirts

    Found my gauntlets, so I dressed up for y'all.
    Picture below is what I'm emulating. ;)
    Not a bad likeness, eh? Except for lack of a sweet afro.

    ALL THE TOYS in their new home!
    Victor building my bookcase.
    Baking Victor's cake--the first baking project in the new house!
    He is clearly enthusiastic about cake.

    Social Media Counts:

    YouTube subscribers: 5,284 for swankivy (no change), 646 for JulieSondra (no change). Twitter followers: 889 for swankivy (5 new), 1,327 for JulieSondra (no change). Facebook: 295 friends (no change) and 202 followers (no change) for swankivy, 652 likes for JulieSondra (no change), 55 likes for Negative One (no change), 126 likes for So You Write (no change). Tumblr followers: 2,489 (lost 5). Instagram followers: 124 (1 new).

    Wednesday, October 11, 2017

    Wednesday Factoid: Holidays

    Today's Wednesday Factoid is: Do you celebrate any holidays most people in your culture do not?

    Tough question for me really.

    Growing up, the answer was yes. I grew up in the Bible Belt (in North Carolina) and I was basically almost always the only Jewish kid in the class. So the fact that we celebrated Hanukkah "instead of" Christmas was a curiosity for some of my peers, and I was pretty vocal about not wanting to participate in holiday activities that I interpreted as being from someone else's religion. You have to understand that they fed us Christmas and Easter in those schools like breathing; nobody ever thought for a second that maybe my family would not in fact like a photo in front of the Christmas tree.

    Me, age 10, with my "little buddy" from a school program. Family was like "wtf"

    The school basically gave a sort of nod to the existence of Judaism once in a while by putting the dreidel song in the holiday program and then proceeding to call it "the Christmas concert" anyway. Ya know.

    People generally knew what Hanukkah was because they were used to thinking of it like the Jewish equivalent of Christmas, and most people knew it involved a menorah and eight nights of presents, and did NOT involve Santa Claus. But pretty much every other Jewish holiday was a mystery to people. We weren't extremely observant but every year we did Passover and celebrated Rosh Hashanah sometimes, and even Purim when I was very young.

    The cultural aspects of Judaism are important to me because they represent tradition, connection, and family, but the religious aspects never really struck a chord for me. I treasure the celebrations I've had with family and love the familiar traditions, but I don't engage in them for spiritual reasons. (And haven't really participated actively in years.)

    I did once host a Passover celebration in my house though.

    In some of the years during and past college, I explored some additional spiritual traditions in the Pagan realms, and many of those stuck with me. In exploring what meant something to me, I learned a lot about ancient traditions of nature worship and seasonal celebrations associated with the solar wheel of the year and the monthly lunar cycle. I especially liked goddess symbolism and seasonal baking, but it turned out it was also for a similar reason to why I appreciate the Jewish traditions: they represent ancestral and environmental connection. I don't really relate to anything that requires "worship."

    Winter Solstice 1999, at Fred's house doing a ritual

    I learned a lot about mythology and different traditions from ancient times, but after spending quite a few years observing those rituals, it felt more like work than a relaxing chance to reconnect, so I moved away from celebrating seasons in such an overt way. I still like to change the decorations around my house to represent seasonal changes eight times a year, and still incorporate very old food traditions into my seasonal baking. So I guess to some extent I still "celebrate" those holidays and most people around me do not.

    A Samhain altar in my apartment
    And in high school, my friends and I had a host of made-up holidays that celebrated significant events in our teenage lives. Those were holidays literally no one else celebrated because they were invented for silly reasons. "Boognish Day" was the 5th of every month, and we would celebrate our love of the band Ween by wearing band tee shirts or the clothes we'd worn to see them in concert. "Bowl Day" was the 2nd of every month, but no, it was not a drug reference. For some reason we would get a big bowl and fill it with Sprite and drink the soda out of the bowl with straws. On the 18th of every month, it was "Yarn Day" and you had to wear a piece of yarn tied on your body somewhere. (Usually we'd tie it onto our shoes.) The 22nd of every month was "Pimpy Day." I had invented a cartoon character named Pimpy the Stud-Mouse and he just needed his own holiday. We would wear our homemade tee shirts with puffy paint drawings of the mouse on them. There was also a "Shoe Day" where my friends and I would wear the same shoes on the same day, but I forget what day of the month it was. There were others but I am not recalling them off the top of my head.

    We were maybe a little weird.

    Monday, October 9, 2017

    Not helping

    So your a 40 year old who plays dress up, likes cartoons, gives themselves lots of labels, and runs a tumblr blog making posts about still being a virgin among other long ass boring posts that no one asked for.. such a special snowflake. Might be time to grow up sweetie.
    A lovely quote I received on Tumblr yesterday

    Sigh. I've addressed this "weaponizing maturity" thing enough times on this blog that I don't think I have to to into it again. Meaning I don't think I need to defend or explore what makes me "an adult" who is already very much "grown up" (sweetie~). But I will say this.

    Nobody is fooled into thinking people who say things like this are trying to help.

    Have you ever gotten a comment like this? Where at face value the words are life advice, but they're delivered in a smarmy, condescending way that reads like an attack?

    Make no mistake. People who talk like this are not telling you what you should do because YOUR life needs help. They're talking to you like this because THEY are not comfortable with your life.

    THEY think (nearly) forty-year-olds like myself should not do stuff like wear costumes for events, enjoy cartoons, or discuss sexuality issues on Tumblr. (And of course I didn't miss the implication when this person tried to shame me for "still being a virgin"--it's all part of the package, you know, because sex in a specific prescribed way is part of having an adult life don't you know.)

    Do I strike you as someone who is uncomfortable about her life or ashamed of any of her activities?

    So in what universe does someone like that expect their shaming attempt to work?

    I am so ridiculously long past the point where shaming me for acting "inappropriately" for my age will have any effect on me at all. Except for, you know, posting about it sometimes, my everyday life is utterly unaffected by what norms people expect me to adhere to. Furthermore, one could argue that my adult life is incredibly successful. I live on my own terms, with some restrictions like, you know, having to go to work and experiencing minor everyday inconveniences like anyone does. I could certainly be considered less successful if you apply external measures to my success, like "well I believe a forty-year-old woman should have a partner by now, and some kids, what's wrong with you, you don't drive a car, you don't have a lucrative career in your chosen field, wow what a failure." But do any of those expectations have any bearing on my goals? No.

    Those are goals someone else decided I should have. Experiences and achievements someone else says I should pursue. Values someone else expects me to hold dear. And as an adult with a reasonable amount of life satisfaction and numerous completed goals, I hear comments like these shouted behind me now and then and just kind of turn around with my eyebrow cocked, thinking "You want me to what now?"

    Maturity is hard to define, but I've long described it as partially incorporating responsibility and security. I'm able to take responsibility for my life and I work, pay bills, and manage my household appropriately. I also have enough extra resources that I can help others now and then. I'm secure in my position in life to a reasonable degree, I'm happy with who I am and have no big holes in my personal life, and I have a lot of fun. I'm fulfilled by my creative pursuits and my relationships. And while I continue to chase some goals I have not yet achieved, that's the nature of life; I can be happy and satisfied while I pursue these goals, and I'm balanced and secure enough to do that.

    Might be time to grow up sweetie.

    People like this can't recognize that they're talking to a grown-up who isn't susceptible to their shame-based peer pressure that sounds a LOT like how people talk in high school. Would a mature person see a message like this and see it as a wake-up call? Of course not. That's laughable. Infantilizing people in an attempt to control them and put them in a corner is a pretty common technique weak people use. Immature, petty, unhappy people are very well known for being overly critical, becoming inappropriately invested in others' lives, and handing down judgmental commentary about other people's choices. Think about the kind of person who sees a woman enjoying her life and chooses to reach out with a message that says "stop it."

    Sounds an awful lot more pathetic than the way they tried to portray me, to be honest.

    Saturday, October 7, 2017

    Personal Digest Saturday: September 30 – October 6

    Life news this week: 
    • Saturday I got a ton of stuff done organizing and unpacking my kitchen. My mom's lawn specialist Tony came over and gave me a sewing desk and a bed frame from my mom, and he let me hire him to cut my grass too. We negotiated that and then after he left I ate a potato and made my first video in my new house. I also drew and posted a writing comic.
    • Sunday I spent a bunch of time organizing closets. They look good! I also paid bills, went to Target and Applebee's with Jeaux, and did laundry. I got a ton of organization done but I didn't get my bathrooms fully unpacked, which disappointed me because that was a weekend goal.
    • Monday I had to go back to work despite being really tired. I did a bunch of work on a utility coordination project we're hashing out at work. The only home organization thing I really got done was assembling some bathroom shelves I'd bought at Target. I fell asleep early because I'm really exhausted from all this.
    • Tuesday I had a lot of free-floating anxiety for some reason. The buses are changing in my area next week so soon I won't have a bus. After work I decided to take a walk down to the next closest bus stop to see how long it would take. It took half an hour. I had my bike with me so I could ride back, but instead of doing that I rode even farther to find out where the store is. I shopped at it and bought a few small grocery items, and then biked home. I got my bathrooms unpacked and also my shoes and purses. And even had time to draw some Steven Universe fan art.
    • Wednesday I was late for the bus so I took Lyft to work. I worked on some stuff for a presentation, and later I did blogging and drawing. When I came home I unpacked some hats before Jeaux came over. We went out to eat at Five Guys and listened to Night Vale and part of a show where Rebecca Sugar was on Tom Scharpling's show.
    • Thursday I was accidentally early to work. Still haven't really figured out these buses. I finished up the utility coordination work and when I got home I did some organizing in the house. Victor called and I finished drawing my webcomic while we talked. I got some drawers organized.
    • Friday I prepared a database of marketing contacts at the office. After work I hung my shower curtain in my other bathroom and tried that one out for my shower, and I ate a potato, posted my webcomic, and did a bunch more unpacking. I also found a GIANT SPIDER in the house. It was the largest spider I've ever seen in person! And I never caught it. :(

    Reading progress:
      New singing performances:

      This week's song was "Little Plastic Castle" by Ani DiFranco.

      New drawings: 

      Steven Universe fanart of Pearl and Garnet goofing around.

      Steven Universe fanart of Garnet restraining angry
      Army Ruby. Drawn with a Sharpie and a pink highlighter.

      Webcomic So You Write Issue 76: "Not Up to Me."

      Webcomic Negative One Issue 0647: "Uncomfortably Close."

      New videos:

      The latest video for my writing channel: Establishing a Routine is about how to get the most out of choosing a time and place to write, and my declared intention of doing so once I'm settled in my new house.

      New photos:

      Jeaux was wearing a shirt that matched the pillow I just bought
      so I had to take a picture!

      Me with the pillow.
      Me with the other side of the pillow.

      Social Media Counts:

      YouTube subscribers: 5,284 for swankivy (1 new), 646 for JulieSondra (no change). Twitter followers: 884 for swankivy (lost 2), 1,327 for JulieSondra (lost 6). Facebook: 295 friends (no change) and 202 followers (no change) for swankivy, 652 likes for JulieSondra (no change), 55 likes for Negative One (no change), 126 likes for So You Write (no change). Tumblr followers: 2,494 (lost 6). Instagram followers: 123 (no change).

      Wednesday, October 4, 2017

      Wednesday Factoid: Weird Food

      Today's Wednesday Factoid is: Do you have a favorite food, meal, or edible combination that other people think is strange or gross? How about a method of consuming it that catches people off-guard?

      Oh I guess I have a few of these!

      When I was in college I used to like to put my chocolate chip cookies IN the milk and stir it up and eat it with a spoon. I don't do that anymore because I don't buy cookies and I don't drink milk much anymore as my lactose intolerance has increased with age, but I would still do it otherwise.

      I like to put soy crumbles (fake ground hamburger) on my corn.

      I usually ask for no butter on my toast.

      I like to pick up pancakes and eat around their borders, and then sort of peel the bottom layer apart from the top layer and eat them separately. (Pancakes don't appear to come in layers, but if you try to pull them apart, they usually will peel!)

      I love black jellybeans and black licorice. Most people don't seem to like those.

      I put my bananas in the fridge.

      Most items that other people like to be "juicy" I like to be dry. I will usually leave things like fake chicken patties and fake hamburgers in the microwave and let them dry out before putting them on a bun or eating them.

      I don't like lettuce on sandwiches.

      I prefer my soda warm.