Saturday, November 17, 2018

Personal Digest Saturday: November 10 – November 16

Life news this week:
  • Saturday I finally got to laze around and get some energy back. I did a lot of work to get my stuff in order to post my blogs, did my NaNo writing, and also talked to my dad who said my grandmother's health is bad, so I made plans to go see her.
  • Sunday I sat outside to answer messages and got some laundry done. Did my writing, drew a picture, cleaned up the place, tried to relax.
  • Monday was a chill day at the office because it was a holiday at the DOT, so we didn't have any letters to go out. I did some printouts and got a ride home. Then I spent the entire evening drawing a very silly fan comic that doesn't make sense to people who don't watch the show but was very well received on Tumblr.
  • Tuesday I had a shit day. Various fires to put out, letter to go in at the office, had to talk to Mom and help her with stuff she doesn't know how to do, etc. I then met my friend Arthur and he took me home and ate Thai food with me, and we watched Steven Universe. I'm finally done showing him the whole show; we usually don't get through too many episodes at once but he kept asking for more, so we finally got to the end. Wow. I then drank a bunch of coffee so I could get through finishing my writing and cleaning up some crap at my house.
  • Wednesday I worked a half day because I had to help Mom again with some paperwork for her financial adviser. She drove me to work after! Yay! I had a pretty chill day again but it was lots of little things. Jeaux and I had breakfast for dinner, went shopping, and watched the Madoka movie. Yikes, I like the TV series better. After he left I finished up my writing and fell asleep.
  • Thursday I took the day off to go see my grandma. My dad took me out for Perkins and we had some long chats catching up, and then we spent a pretty short time with my grandma. I was glad to get to see her even though she is not able to be responsive really. Just got to talk to her and see her. It would've been longer but the staff wanted to take care of her bathing and stuff after lunch, so we left. We stopped for sushi and talked about music and other stuff, and then I worked on my book, talked to Victor on the phone, and drew part of my webcomic.
  • Friday I was back at work. Again it was just lots of little things to take care of. And I apparently got a raise, which is super great. My co-worker took me home and I got my writing done, listened to a podcast about Steven Universe and wrote it up for my blog, and then had to scurry through the rest of my webcomic because the podcast took too long. I almost didn't make it because my computer also decided it doesn't want to use Microsoft Word anymore, so I had to figure out why, uninstall the update that caused the problem, and go from there. Argh!

Articles, interviews, mentions:

  • There weren't really any this week BUT I did find something that was posted a while back that I hadn't seen before. There's a comic dub on YouTube of one of my fan comics, as in, the fan did the voices and showed the pictures I drew, speaking the characters' dialogue. I did give this fan permission to post this but they had also said they were going to send me the link when they did, and they never did. Here's the link if you want to watch it--they did my Ruby Booty comic.


New reviews of my book:

  • Laura gave it a five-star review on Goodreads (in Spanish), saying it eased the reviewer's doubts.
  • Jalen Lyle-Holmes gave it a three-star review on Goodreads, especially liking the gray areas and human relationships bits.
  • Elisabeth gave it a three-star review on Goodreads, pointing out that they liked the info but found it repetitive and wished for more personal accounts.
Reading progress:
  • Finished this week: I was too busy this week for reading, didn't even start!
  • Currently readingThe Law Enforcement Guide to Wicca by Kerr Cuhulain.
    New singing performances:

    I didn't actually get around to doing a SingSnap performance this week, but I did randomly post a (hidden) karaoke cover of "That Distant Shore," a lovely song from Steven Universe. You can listen, but the recording's not great.




    Stuff Drawn:


    Cat People
    This is the first panel of a comic that won't make sense
    to people who don't watch this cartoon.
    It's called Did I Mention Quartz if you want to click through.




    Webcomic Negative One Issue 0705: "So Mature Before."






    New videos:

    None.

    New photos:


    Just a nice pride of Lions for ya.


    Social Media Counts:

    YouTube subscribers: 5,251 for swankivy (lost 1), 682 for JulieSondra (2 new). Twitter followers: 970 for swankivy (2 new), 1,354 for JulieSondra (2 new). Facebook: 296 friends (no change) and 204 followers (lost 1) for swankivy, 653 likes for JulieSondra (1 new), 59 likes for Negative One (no change), 147 likes for So You Write (1 new). Tumblr followers: 2,522 (lost 1). Instagram followers: 161 (2 new).

    Friday, November 16, 2018

    NaNoWriMo: Halfway

    Continuing to plug away at National Novel Writing Month with great success!

    Yesterday, November 15, is the halfway point of the event, and therefore of course we writers are supposed to have hit our halfway point to 50,000 words on that date.

    I did.


    It's weird. On the one hand, it's sorta reassuring; I can still write at the drop of a hat whenever I want to, and if I do it every day, a novel starts to take shape. It's not particularly sloppy for a first draft, it's doing some pretty cool things that are surprising me, and I think the third person storytelling is helping me avoid the tendency to get super cerebral or engage in unnecessary navel gazing. 

    One small issue I am having is that the romance in the story is front and center, and I'm not sure about the balance I should strike. Obviously as an asexual and aromantic author who does not engage in these kinds of relationships, I'm sorta faking it, though that's not a hard thing to do really with the media the way it is. I've grown up with stories that tell me how people experience this and how they write about it. It doesn't seem mysterious to me at all beyond the fact that I have never personally been through it, and since I'm also writing about humans and aliens living on another planet and I have never done that either, it's about the same level of guesswork.

    But I want it to feel authentic enough to NOT sound like it's written by someone who's guessing, and for that you need detail. So the issue then becomes, well, I'm writing about fifteen-year-olds getting interested in each other, and I'm a forty-year-old woman who doesn't want to sound filthy if I get into too much detail about teenagers experimenting with, er, amorous relations.

    So I'm aiming for sweet and a little hot sometimes, like it is for many people when they go through it. I'm focusing a lot on how it's new or how it affects the characters as young members of families and communities, and on the unrealistic and very big thoughts they have that are nevertheless fully felt and legitimate despite lacking perspective.

    I am definitely continuing to let some lessons I've learned from cartoons help me with my pacing. I'm still dealing with a little bit of "oh I thought of this thing, better dump it on the page now so I don't forget," but this is a first draft, so that's to be expected. One thing I've learned from being such a Steven Universe fangirl is how satisfying a slow burn backstory reveal can be. I don't have anything huge to dump to be honest, but I've learned that it's still intriguing to do partial dumps of info that hint at more to come, and it will make people curious without irritating them too much when they don't know. 

    It's interesting how much of the main character's daily life is actually super weird by our standards but I'm making it pretty everyday and only finding it important to mention when someone else finds it super weird. Because I don't do much plotting and I make a lot of stuff up on the fly, I'm kinda discovering these things along with the characters, and I also seem to be planting things that I don't actually know where they'll go. I'm sure I can smooth things out later to make them look like they were intentionally moving in that direction, but for now there are a couple mysteries I'm considering actually just not solving, unless maybe the story does it for me without me trying.

    There's also the matter of a broken love triangle. In short, my protagonist's race has a lot of beliefs that make outsiders view them as essentially a fertility cult, so their expectation that every girl will meet a boy and have babies is more than just a societal expectation; it's a religion and a way of life. The protagonist believes she may be the first gay member of their species ever because there's just no way to talk about it inside of her culture. But humans are also in the picture and they are known to have homosexuality in their species, so the protagonist does have some context--especially when she meets a cute human girl.

    But of course, her culture is pushing her to start being interested in boys, and there is a specific boy entering the picture now. I figured when I conceived of him that he would exist, story-wise, to represent tradition and that he'd probably be pretty angry and feel slighted when the truth came out and she likes a girl. But after I actually met him in the story, it kinda seems like he's confused about just about everything too and he doesn't seem the type to be possessive about her. Now I'm starting to think a boy like him would be a good ally for her. And now I'm starting to think that when the time comes, he will say or do something essential for the story.

    It's weird how these things work.



    Wednesday, November 14, 2018

    Wednesday Factoid: Habits at Home

    Today's Wednesday Factoid is: When it comes to keeping your home clean, what are your bad habits?

    My home is very nice and neat most of the time. I keep my house neater than probably at least 95% of the people I know. 

    Probably the two worst habits I have with regard to keeping my house clean are leaving dishes by the computer and throwing my art all over the floor.

    Since I do a lot of work on the computer, I often eat there, so there's almost always a plate on the desk unless I basically just cleaned up. Sometimes a coffee cup too. 

    And the art ends up on the floor because I draw a lot and the markers will get scattered all over the place, and when I scan the art to show on the Internet, it'll get thrown on the floor for a while before I put it away in whatever folder it goes in. Sometimes if I'm not in the mood to sort the drawings they'll end up in a stack on my drafting table.

    I have an issue with dust building up because I have so much stuff, but that's not that bad.

    Oh, and the hairballs. I have long hair so when I shed the hairballs can start to collect and I don't vacuum very much. 

    Saturday, November 10, 2018

    Personal Digest Saturday: November 3 – November 9

    Life news this week:
    • Saturday was Fred and Kathy's wedding! I woke up super early because, well, east coast time, so I had a bunch of time to work on my blogging and eat breakfast in the hotel before I got ready and went to the church for the wedding. It was a beautiful ceremony even though I didn't know the Catholic stuff, and I kept unexpectedly crying at all the little things. The officiant was a nerd and told a Dungeons and Dragons story during the ceremony, haha. Afterwards, I went to the reception and the food was yummy, the cake was yummy, and the company was lovely even though I didn't know anyone (I sat with some people who are connected to Kathy through church). I left kind of early (right after the cake) because I had an early flight, but I still had some time to get some writing done before going to sleep.
    • Sunday I was up super early (before they even started breakfast downstairs) so I could get a Lyft to the airport. The flights I was on were both crowded (one to Atlanta, one to Tampa) so I couldn't really do any writing on the plane. Did some reading though. Got home at a reasonable hour, unpacked, and did my usual Sunday stuff (but didn't feel like finishing laundry). Had to do some maintenance on my water system too. Managed to slide in with some writing before bed.
    • Monday had me back at work well before I was recovered, but I survived. I did some website updates, and later did some writing and posts about comics.
    • Tuesday I didn't go to work. Helped Mom with a couple things and made sure she was on time for a meeting, haha. I met with my friend Arthur to watch cartoons but he had to leave early so we only got to watch four episodes, but it was fun and we ate Thai food. After he left I finished my writing and made a video for a group project on asexuality I was asked to participate in.
    • Wednesday I woke up later than I wanted, and I had to go to work late to give me time to read the new Steven Universe comic because I am a huge nerd. (I took a Lyft instead of the bus so I wouldn't be really late.) I worked on a letter and some report stuff for two of my co-workers. I had a really annoying argument with someone on Tumblr who thought they could correct me on something I wasn't wrong about. It's hilarious when people think they know more about cartoons than me. Nyah. Then Jeaux picked me up and we ate at Fuzzy's, got comics, and went to my house to finish off Madoka and watch some Brooklyn Nine-Nine. Woo! After he left I quickly wrote a chapter. :)
    • Thursday I did some writing, helped my co-worker with some more report stuff, and did not argue anymore with any jackasses on Tumblr. I got stuck at the office until after 7 PM because the bus kept not coming and I didn't want to wait in the dark, so I waited for my co-worker to get off so he could take me home. I usually talk to Victor but he had fallen asleep so I didn't talk to him, and I finished some writing and then fell asleep early myself.
    • Friday I helped two of my co-workers scramble for a submission, and then I got to spend the afternoon finishing my comic and writing my book, plus I did a cute drawing for the folks on Amino.

    Reading progress:
      New singing performances:

      This week's song was "Vision of Love" by Mariah Carey.



      Stuff Drawn:


      A sheet of random Garnets I doodled while waiting for my co-worker to drive me home


      Welcome to Fusion Beach, with your hosts Rhodonite and Garnet, pull up some sand and stay a while




      Webcomic Negative One Issue 0704: "Transparent."






      New videos:

      None.

      New photos:


      Hotel breakfast!
      My wedding outfit, minus the jacket
      Wedding outfit selfie
      Program for wedding!
      The couple walks in!
      Couple during the ceremony, laughing
      Beautiful--it's the kiss!
      And the night wouldn't be complete without cake.

      Social Media Counts:

      YouTube subscribers: 5,252 for swankivy (3 new), 680 for JulieSondra (no change). Twitter followers: 968 for swankivy (lost 2), 1,352 for JulieSondra (2 new). Facebook: 296 friends (no change) and 205 followers (2 new) for swankivy, 652 likes for JulieSondra (2 new), 59 likes for Negative One (1 new), 146 likes for So You Write (no change). Tumblr followers: 2,523 (4 new). Instagram followers: 159 (lost 1).

      Thursday, November 8, 2018

      My first week of NaNo

      I used to post updates about writing projects on Thursdays. I haven't had a writing project in a really long time, so I haven't been posting writing updates on Thursdays.

      National Novel Writing Month is going well for me. I wasn't sure if it was going to. I have so much going on during November, and this is maybe the busiest November I've had yet. I basically kicked all this off doing some of my writing on the dang airplane because I didn't have time to do it any other time.

      What's really interesting about NaNoWriMo for me is that the pacing gives me an excuse to stop.

      I'm such a binge writer. When I get into things I just get absorbed and want to finish, and I sacrifice a lot of sleep and attention to do so.

      NaNo is supposed to press people into short-term sustainable writing patterns to get them writing, push them to turn off the inner editor, incentivize them to write something so they get some practice and have something to sculpt later if they like what comes out. I haven't historically had those problems, but the problem I do have is that I know how much writing takes out of me and I have been reluctant to start a project because I'm already overwhelmed and stressed.

      But if I write a little bit each day and pace myself, and keep an eye on the word count, and stop when I'm around the goal, I don't have to make huge adjustments to the rest of my life just to write a book in a relatively short amount of time.

      It's neat.


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      Observations about my book so far:

      • The word count on Day 8 is 14,001.
      • I think this is my first third-person novel.
      • This is a science fiction story set in the distant future. The worldbuilding for it is very quiet, and I'm worrying that the reveals are a little too as-you-know-bob.
      • Lots of dialogue.
      • It's more romantic than I thought it would be--the romance is front and center, and early.
      • I got the main characters to kiss. It took me 12,798 words to get there.
      • I'm not good at naming alien places. Who names a continent "Dry Lace"?
      • I am obsessed with Steven Universe, which has a lot of space lesbians in it. I am also writing about lesbians in space. And yet, it is nothing like Steven Universe.
      • However, I think I've learned more about slow reveals for worldbuilding and character history from watching that show.
      • I'm reusing concepts and names from the short story I'm basing this book on. The short story was written almost 20 years ago. I'm not sure why I feel a loyalty to the names even though I've changed a lot of the specifics of their lives.
      • I cut and pasted a tiny bit of the original text into an interlude and I didn't like the flavor, so I won't do it again.
      • I like the book so far but I'm not super excited about it. Maybe it will totally surprise me soon. 

      Wednesday, November 7, 2018

      Wednesday Factoid: Dealbreaker

      Today's Wednesday Factoid is: When you meet someone new, do you have any major dealbreakers that, once discovered, will lead you to terminate your relationship with them?

      Being racist.

      I'd love to include the whole spectrum of xenophobia-based intolerances, but if I actually analyze my past behavior with regard to how I have actually TAKEN ACTION to end relationships, I have consistently snapped on racism quicker and more completely than any other -ism.

      To be honest, I think this is because I second-guess myself sometimes. I am extremely reluctant to write people off or kick them out of my life for presumed beliefs, partly because I like to think exposure to my perspectives will help bring theirs toward equality. (It's happened before!) And I'm more willing to make excuses for other people if I perceive that their ignorant statements and actions are, in a way, personal insults--if I perceive them to be against groups I'm part of. I worry that I'm "getting offended" personally over the horrible things they say, and I hold them less accountable.

      So if you say something antifeminist or misogynistic, I worry I shouldn't unfriend you because I'm just being too sensitive, since I'm a woman.

      And if you say something homophobic or transphobic, I worry I shouldn't unfriend you because you're dissing a group I'm part of, since I'm queer.

      And if you say something anti-Semitic, I worry I shouldn't unfriend you because I might be more likely to read extra meaning into your words that you don't really mean, since I'm Jewish.

      But if you say something racist? I'm white and I've never had to deal with racism. I see you doing it and I have no qualms about refusing to associate with racist trash. This is probably why I just grumbled when this new acquaintance said some incredibly ignorant things about male/female relationships that cast women in a really awful light, and I just rolled my eyes when someone else told me he didn't "believe in" asexuality and believed I was educating people about it so I could feel special, but after I saw him fearmongering about Muslims having a MOSQUE ON GROUND ZERO and using racist slurs about "Mexicans" because he didn't like that so many Hispanic people were in line ahead of him for some service he had to access, I unfriended him and never spoke to him again.

      Thinking back, it is actually weird that I didn't do it earlier, considering there were several times he personally said and did objectively awful things to me. I apparently couldn't truly acknowledge how awful he was until he hurt people who weren't me. I've been trained to think that if someone does something gross to me, I'm supposed to offer forgiveness.

      I knew he was awful, but he had to be racist before I would do something about it and cut him out of my circle.

      I guess it's just easy to see how rotten someone is if they hate people over their race or national origin, and when they choose to express it with slurs and vitriol that's born of foaming xenophobia, not ~national security~ or whatever men like him pretend is their real reason for being a bigot. Looking back, it obviously ties in with all his other gross beliefs about women and non-heteronormative people, and it shouldn't surprise anyone that yet another cisgender able-bodied straight white man is racist. But I guess I've learned that while racism is not the only thing that makes me drop someone immediately, it is the easiest for me to act on because I'm sure it isn't for selfish reasons.
       


       

      Tuesday, November 6, 2018

      On Weddings

      Got to see my longtime friend Fred get married to his sweetheart Kathy this weekend.


      The wedding was held in a Catholic church and involved some rituals and practices I was not familiar with, but it was also interestingly casual; the ceremony was not particularly long, it was conducted in English, and it had some sort of religious folk songs playing during interludes, with live vocalists and instrumentalists. The officiant even told a story about Dungeons and Dragons while marrying them. Pretty nerdy!

      But I have to say it was very moving despite not being heavy-handed or overwrought at all. I think maybe I just bring that to the table myself because I love human rituals and what they mean. I cried a few times during the ceremony and a few more during the reception.


      I think I would never make it through a wedding if I was one of the parties being married. I would just break down and cry unless I had a lot of training to avoid it or something. And it probably still wouldn't work.

      I've been part of the wedding party in several weddings in recent years--as a bridesmaid in both my sisters' weddings and the wedding of my best friend--and I struggled to keep a nice balance between getting invested in the words being spoken and not getting too invested because then I'd become a gross mess and probably look like I'm trying to get attention.

      Even with all that, with what weddings mean to me, with how wonderful it is to see people find each other and experience all those firsts together, I have never desired it for me. Planning a wedding just seems like an outright nightmare, even if you have a small one, and I don't have or want a relationship along the lines that would lead to a wedding. The phrase "always a bridesmaid, never a bride" makes me sad--I don't like thinking about what other people believe about single women, and how we're almost always processed as pathetic or sad. 

      "What about you, are you not married yet?" someone asked me at this wedding.

      I have a hard time answering stuff like that, because I want to be polite and not cause problems, but I also don't like the "yet" on the end of that sentence. 

      As much as I adore the celebrations our culture has for love, I really dislike how hyperfocused we are on perceiving marriage as the necessarily ideal situation for adults to live their lives. I think it's true that more and more people are avoiding marriage or choosing to stay single, but the narrative definitely hasn't shifted yet to understanding that as a choice made intentionally versus by default if you can't get anyone to choose you.

      I wish more people understood how I can cry at someone's wedding without assuming I wish it was me.

      Saturday, November 3, 2018

      Personal Digest Saturday: October 27 – November 2

      Life news this week:
      • Saturday I mostly just did a bunch of housekeeping--book reviews, updating photo galleries, and blogging. Other than that, it was a pretty low-key day and I didn't do a lot--I just wanted some time to rest. Also the drawing I did at Drink and Draw the previous day, I had posted it on the Steven Universe Amino and they featured it on the front page, which hasn't happened in a little while, so that was neat.
      • Sunday I got up late and hung out at my outdoor table for a long time answering messages and reading. Also made some delicious apple bread for my co-worker because he gave me apples and I figured I could thank him with apple bread. (I wrapped one loaf for him and prepared one to share with the office.) Beyond that, just did laundry and karaoke and stuff.
      • Monday wasn't terrible even though we had a last-minute letter to finish at work. The co-worker I'd made apple bread for did not come to work because he'd had a heart attack and was in the hospital, so yikes. I prepared my NaNoWriMo page (viewable to other participants who are logged in) and committed to doing the program. And I really wanted to eat a veggie burger but had no burger buns, so I made some from scratch and got to have what I wanted.
      • Tuesday was typical at the office, and I got a ride home and had another veggie burger. I updated some of my fan things, like my t-shirt collection picture since I got two new shirts, and then I took some new photos of my Halloween costume.
      • Wednesday was Halloween! I wore a shiny pumpkin shirt and a witch hat to work, and I brought my Pumpkin plushie. No news at the office. Jeaux picked me up and we picked up Which Wich? sandwiches, then went back to my house so we could be there to receive trick-or-treaters. I only got a few though. I answered the door in costume, wearing a Steven mask, and one parent knew who I was. :) We watched our shows in between kids, and then did grocery shopping. After he left I packed my suitcase for Phoenix.
      • Thursday was NOVEMBER FIRST, which meant I had to start writing my novel! I've never done NaNoWriMo before so this is exciting. And I did indeed start it, and I did manage to meet the minimum word count goal for the day. (They set a goal for if you write 1,667 words a day, you will have 50,000 words by the end of the month. Pretty reasonable!) At work I did some utility updates, but only worked a half day because I had a lot to do. I went home early, finished up some stuff for Phoenix, and helped my mom with a few things because she needed to go see this financial planner thing and she didn't know how to get there or what to bring. After all that it was pretty late and I needed to be up super early to catch a plane, so I finished up posting my webcomic and finalized my packing.
      • Friday I got up at 3:45 AM and got a Lyft to the airport. Plane rides were uneventful; I had coffee and worked on my novel on the first plane, ate a breakfast burrito in Houston (accidentally ate an onion! blechh!), worked on my novel more on the second plane, and landed in Phoenix practically before I left. Haha. The hotel let me check in early so I did. I did some practical stuff and decided to go out to lunch, and found out Fred was nearby getting his suit fitted, so he met me at P.F. Chang's for lunch and I got to see him! We caught up and ate, and then he had to go do errands and I had to go take a nap, so I did that. Then he picked me up for the rehearsal dinner! I got to watch him and his fiancĂ©e Kathy practice the ceremony in a beautiful Catholic church, and then we went into an adjoining room to have our dinner. It was catered and very tasty, good salad and awesome potatoes cut in the shape of mushrooms, with apple cobbler and ice cream for dessert. So good! I made a new friend and chatted to her almost all night, and it was so cool to see Fred and Fred's family! Can't believe he'll be a married man tomorrow.
      New reviews of my book:


    • Alex gave it a five-star review on Goodreads, just offering a quote from the book as a review.
    • Allison Janicki gave it a four-star review on Goodreads, calling it informative but a little dry, but appreciating the occasional humorous comments.
    • Paul gave it a three-star review on Goodreads, including the book in a YouTube October wrap-up starting at 2:42. Paul wanted to read it because with all the people starting to identify as asexual these days, it's helpful to understand the terms.
    • "Amazon Customer" on the UK Amazon site gave it a one-star review saying it has good info but is too "patronising towards sexuals."

    • Articles, Interviews, Mentions:



    • aprilinparisfanfic's Instagram cites my book as a primary research source for their writing.


    • inqueertime's Instagram credits my book as a great source of information for people interested in asexuality.

    • Reading progress:
      • Finished this week: Nothing, super busy.
      • Currently readingSiddhartha by Hermann Hesse.
        New singing performances:

        This week's song was "Hands" by Jewel.



        Stuff Drawn:



        Webcomic So You Write Issue 89: "Never Say Never."










        Webcomic Negative One Issue 0703: "Dark Shape."






        New videos:

        None.

        New photos:


        Made hamburger rolls!
        Bonding with Pumpkin, wearing my new Sadie Killer and the Suspects shirt


        Is 44 shirts enough?
        Garnet costume, full body!

        Garnet costume with gauntlets!

        Garnet costume doing heart hands!

        Garnet costume with accurate gemstones!
        Garnet costume with Pumpkin

        Garnet costume chillin' with Pumpkin

        Me in my costume comparing myself to a toy

        Giving my Steven plushie a ride

        Hanging out with my Steven plushie
        At work wearing a witch hat, with Pumpkin
        Airplane selfie! Going to Phoenix for a wedding, so I wore my Ruby and Sapphire wedding shirt.
        Airport coffee in Houston
        Cacti selfie in Phoenix
        Kathy and Fred at their rehearsal

        Wedding party at their rehearsal

        More wedding party at their rehearsal

        Couple laughing at rehearsal

        Fred and Kathy at rehearsal dinner

        Me with the happy couple

        Social Media Counts:

        YouTube subscribers: 5,249 for swankivy (lost 1), 680 for JulieSondra (no change). Twitter followers: 970 for swankivy (3 new), 1,350 for JulieSondra (no change). Facebook: 296 friends (no change) and 203 followers (lost 2) for swankivy, 650 likes for JulieSondra (no change), 58 likes for Negative One (no change), 146 likes for So You Write (no change). Tumblr followers: 2,519 (2 new). Instagram followers: 160 (no change).