tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793202434796167753.post7544280316563554494..comments2023-11-28T06:18:53.641-05:00Comments on In Propinquity: Wednesday Factoid: Ending FriendshipsJulie Sondra Deckerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15755582329896793392noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793202434796167753.post-15164291467204398572015-06-26T14:20:13.105-04:002015-06-26T14:20:13.105-04:00I guess at least as adults we're expected to m...I guess at least as adults we're expected to meet nearly all of our needs with a single partnership, and the idea of having friends mutates into something immature since you're "supposed' to focus on your family or something. Which is weird because feelings of isolation and loneliness increase during those years of our lives sometimes when we realize we don't really have a social life anymore outside of family and work. I think it would be good for us as a society to normalize having continuing contact with friends even if you are not single.<br /><br />And yeah, it's interesting how if someone is gay the suspicion increases that they are in a relationship with anyone else of the same sex that they might spend time with. Same dynamic, I think, that has people flipping out about a gay person in the locker room, as if being attracted to people means you will ogle them or hit on them or creep on them or violate them. Suddenly when someone's gay, other people conceive everything they do in the context of their homosexuality. It's really annoying. Julie Sondra Deckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15755582329896793392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8793202434796167753.post-10541620114455630312015-06-24T16:12:55.857-04:002015-06-24T16:12:55.857-04:00It's weird how much we try as a society to tri...It's weird how much we try as a society to trivalize friendship, especially compared to romantic love. I have more happy memories, more regrets, and more attachment to my past and present friendships than I do to any of my romantic endeavours. (Biggest fight and reconciliation that ever happened to me in high school was with a friend, not a boyfriend).<br /><br />Also, hah. Shortly before graduating high school, I too found out my classmates thought I was a lesbian and with another friend of mine. I guess it was more justified in that she actually was gay? Then again, it was well-known she already had a girlfriend--who's her wife now--so that probably makes it less justified.Darth Lolitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18042975826918171575noreply@blogger.com